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According to Hani Henry, chair and associate professor of psychology in the Department of Sociology, Anthropology, Psychology and Egyptology at AUC, Robert Sternberg’s psychological theory covers the most common reasons why we fall in love, namely: intimacy, passion and commitment.
A basic friendship is a relationship that involves a person falling in love with another person for intimate reasons. It lacks commitment and passion. Henry stated that intimacy is more than just a close connection with someone. It can also be used to enhance self-esteem. Sometimes it is self-serving. Everyone longs to feel loved and cared about. Women desire to feel their femininity and men desire to feel their masculinity.
Intimacy is captured perfectly in Adele’s Hello song. Adele contacts her ex boyfriend and reveals her feelings of heartbreak about the relationship in the song’s chorus. She explained that many years have passed, and she hasn’t done much healing. "Her lyrics are magic and speak for many people who want an emotional connection with anyone, or even a short-term romance," he stated.
It is normal to fall in love with someone because we feel strong feelings or desire for them. Passionate love is developed as a result of feelings that lead to sexual attraction, physical interest and romance. Henry explained, "When you meet someone you like you become captivated by that person." Henry explained that physical attraction can be described as a fascination with hair, eyes, and the body.
Infatuation develops when there is no intimacy or commitment. People are attracted to one another and develop a sense of lust. Some people are obsessed and see that person as a type of object. He said, "You can be in love with someone for years but not feel that there is any commonality between you two."
Complete love requires commitment. "People who seek commitment want stability and a healthy relationship," he said. "People who are only looking for commitment might lack basic friendship interests and sexual attraction."
Henry says that young adults today are more interested in objects than in relationships. He explained, "The objectification results from consumerism."
attitude status is, the less people are interested in making commitments. Some youth are more concerned with impressing people they don’t care about. Everything must be consumed, even relationships with other people.
Love Outside the Triangular Theory
Sternberg’s theory of love is universal. However, every person has their own reasons to fall in love. Science doesn’t have to explain why you fall in love. Henry stated that some personal needs could include the fear of being alone or social peer pressure, fulfillment, or religious values.
Regardless of what psychology may say about love and how it affects us, we define who we really are by the type of love that we choose. We all have our own unique ways of understanding what makes us happy, and what fulfills our human desires. "Some people find themselves with a need for each dimension of the triangle. However, they can’t give up one of their needs because of the many. Love can be complex.